It’s that time of year, again, when I am reminded that it is time to plan my annual reading of The Five Love Languages…
By far The 5 Love Languages, by Gary Chapman, is one of my all time favorite books. It is one of a handful of books that I will read more than once. I usually can’t stand to read the same book twice, because I know what is going to happen and it just kills the enjoyment for me. This book, however, is a worthy exception.
I first read The Five Love Languages in 1997, shortly after I became a Christian. I learned SO much the first time I read it. For the first time in my adult life, I actually felt like I understood my Dad. My Dad was always the provider. He worked long, hard hours to provide for the six of us kids and Mom. Dad is a man of few words, and he didn’t often say I love you… at least, when we were younger. From reading The Five Love Languages, I realized that Dad spoke his love for us every time he punched the time clock, every time he worked overtime, and every time he took the odd job snow plowing or repairing someone’s car. I didn’t understand then, nor did he, that we spoke different love languages.
Since 1997, I have tried to read The Five Love Languages at least once a year. I really think that I gain fresh, new perspective into the relationships in my life each time I read it.
2012 is nearly a quarter finished (can you believe it?) and I have to get this book back in my stack. I think it is essential reading for everyone who loves anyone!
I took the love language test, available online. Here are my results…
My Primary Love Language is Words of Affirmation
|My Detailed Results:|
|Words of Affirmation:||11|
|Acts of Service:||6|
I feel loved when… I am told that I am loved, or appreciated, or talented, or…
Pretty much, I am a words girl.
Words will either build me up or tear me down.
Now that Dad understands that, he never hangs up the phone without saying the words “I love you.” And if he does, one of us is quick to hit redial (bet you can’t guess which one).
Unhappiness in relationships is often due to the fact that we speak different love languages. It can be helpful to know what language you speak and what language those around you speak. How about you? Do you know your primary Love Language?
I would love to know your results, too. What did you think of the quiz? Do you think the result is an accurate assessment of your love language?
Have you read it? What are your thoughts?
***This is an unsolicited review, and I purchased my own copy of THIS book. I originally posted about The Five Love Languages back in 2009 and updated to share with you again, because I think this book is that important! I will soon be sharing my review of The 5 Love Languages of Children, which I had previously received as a gift from my Mother-in-Law, and also received a review copy of from the publisher. I have donated my extra copy to our church resource library. Squee!***