Friendships are some of the most valuable relationships in our lives. We turn to our friends when we need comfort, support, and a listening ear. Friends are there for us during challenging phases in our lives, not just happy times. But sometimes, we can be so wrapped up in our own lives that we don’t even realize when our friends are going through a tough time. It’s important to discern when our friends need more than our smile. Here are some ways to help a stressed-out Mom friend, when you recognize her need.
Ways To Help Out A Stressed-Out Mom Friend
If you notice that your friend is stressed out, there are ways that you can help her. Some of these are absolutely free, and some of them are not. All of them will show just how much you care about her and her friendship.
Pray for Her
Whether you know what your friend is stressed out about, or not, one of the single most important and helpful things you can do for her is pray for her. Pray for her healing, pray for her circumstances, pray for her victory. And then, if you think she’d be blessed by it, send her the In Jesus Name song by Katy Nichole. It is powerful!
Listen to Her Vent
Sometimes all your friend needs is someone to listen to her. Strengthen your friendship with good listening skills and let her vent about her day, kids, husband, in-laws, or whatever is stressing her out. Just listening and offering a sympathetic ear can be a huge help.
Listening is more than just hearing what she’s saying. It’s about giving her your full attention and really listening to her. This means putting away your phone, making eye contact (if comfortable), and not interrupting her. Just let her get everything off her chest.
Whether you meet her at a coffee shop and let her carry the conversation while she vents, or you show up with her favorite brew in a cup to remind her how awesome she is, she’ll appreciate the kindness and the chance to share!
Offer To Help With the Kids
If your friend has young kids, offer to help out by watching them for a few hours. Doing this will give her some much-needed time to herself. She can use this time to do something she enjoys, take a nap, or just have some time to think without being interrupted.
If you have kids of your own around the same ages, offer to have a playdate so her kids can socialize with yours. This way, she can get some adult conversation while the kids play. Be sure to include her in the playdate planning, so she doesn’t feel like she’s being left out.
Surprise Her With a Bouquet of Flowers and Chocolates
Who doesn’t love getting flowers? A beautiful FruitFlowers® bouquet can really brighten someone’s day. So if your friend is stressed out, surprise her with a bouquet of her favorite flowers. It even comes with a box of delectable chocolate-covered strawberries or assorted chocolate-covered fruits, and you can add on extras like a Godiva® Chocolate Box. This small gesture will put a smile on her face and let her know that you’re thinking of her.
If you’re on a budget, you can get her a “virtual bouquet” through an online flower service. These services allow you to send a virtual bouquet of flowers to anyone in the country for a reasonable price, and you can add a personalized message of support or encouragement.
Cook Her Dinner
One way to help out a stressed-out mom friend is to cook her dinner. Prepare a meal that can be easily frozen so she can enjoy it whenever she’s short on time. You could also order her carry-out dinner from her favorite restaurant, or get her a gift card so she can use it when she needs it most. The important thing is that she doesn’t have to cook or worry about dinner for one night.
If you’re not a great cook, don’t worry, there are plenty of easy recipes that even the most inexperienced cook can make. Just do a quick search online for “easy recipes for beginners,” and you’ll find many options. Be sure you know any food allergies or restrictions in her home. You wouldn’t want to make a sausage and egg quiche for someone that doesn’t consume pork!
Invite Her Over for Movie Night
Sometimes the best way to help a friend is to spend some time with her. Invite her over for a movie night or to watch her favorite TV show. Make some popcorn and have some snacks on hand. This way, she can relax and take her mind off of her stressors.
If you want to make it a real night in, you can order a pizza or other dinner delivery. Just be sure to ask her what she’s in the mood for so you know she’ll really enjoy it. The Mom’s Night Out movie may be a perfect fit, since it’s about a stressed out mom.
Pay for a Massage or Mani-Pedi
If your friend is stressed out, she might appreciate a day of pampering. You can offer to pay for her to get a massage, mani-pedi, or any other spa treatment, which will help her relax and feel refreshed.
If you can’t afford to pay for a spa treatment, you could give her a gift basket that includes all the essentials for a spa day at home. If it’s a friend you’re particularly close to, you can even plan a home spa day to give each other facials.
Do Something Nice for Her Without Being Asked
One way to show your friend that you care is to do something nice for her without being asked. This could be taking out the trash, doing the dishes, folding her laundry, or even helping her out with a project she’s doing for her Parent Teacher Organization (PTO). Basically, anything that will save her some time and alleviate some stress, even if it’s just a little bit.
Doing something nice for her, without being asked, is one of the few simple ways to help a friend. It shows that you’re thinking of her and want to help, even if she doesn’t ask. You should only do this if you know she’d appreciate it. Otherwise, she might feel like you’re trying to take over or that you think she can’t do it herself.
Send Her a Handwritten Note
In this age of texting and emailing, handwritten notes can be a thoughtful way to show someone you care and can really help a friend. If your friend is stressed out, send her a note telling her you’re thinking of her. This small gesture will mean a lot to her.
You can even include a gift card to her favorite store or restaurant. This way, she can treat herself, even if she doesn’t have time to go out and do it herself. By doing this, you’re showing her that you care and want to help her relax.
Take Something Off Her Plate
One way to help out a stressed-out mom friend is to take something off her plate. This act could be watching her kids for a few hours so she can have a break, running errands for her, or even just doing her grocery shopping.
Basically, anything that will help lighten her load and give her some time to herself. If you can, try to do this regularly so she knows she can rely on you.
These are just a few ways to help a stressed-out mom friend. If you have a friend going through a tough time, see if there’s anything you can do to help. Even just lending a listening ear can make a difference and help her feel not so alone.
Help Her Find a Counselor
Don’t be offended, but there are times when a friend may need to talk to someone other than you. If that is the case, help her find a counselor that is local and offer to watch her kids while she goes. Not sure where to direct her? Focus on the Family counselors offer an initial free consultation to TheHopeLine callers to identify what help is needed.
Of course, many of these are ways to help a stressed out friend, whether she’s a mom or not. It’s important to know how to help a friend in any season of her life.