I don’t know if you have ever heard of Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, or not, but if you are married, you NEED to read this man’s books!
Hubs and I first heard of Dr. Emerson Eggerichs around the time we were engaged. Shortly thereafter, we attended a conference where Dr. Eggerichs spoke. At the conference, Dr. Eggerichs covered some of the information in his book, Cracking the Communication Code: The Secret to Speaking Your Mate’s Language. He discussed how men wear blue earphones and speak from blue megaphones, while women wear pink headphones and speak from pink megaphones, thus speaking two different languages. Hubs and I have joked ever since about the blue and pink headphones. If I say something that he just doesn’t get, he’ll be like, “Sorry, I’ve got blue earphones.” Or if he says something I don’t like, I’m like, “Spoken by one with a blue megaphone.” While we often make light of it, that single insight has gone a long way to make our marriage a good one!
Because I have the utmost respect for Dr. Eggerichs, I have attempted to read all of his material. So, when I received an opportunity, through BookSneeze, to review the Love and Respect for a Lifetime book, I immediately said yet. As Dr. Eggerichs so aptly puts, women absolutely need love. Men absolutely need respect. It’s as simple AND as complicated as that…
Husbands and wives will learn simple and effective keys for talking to, thinking about, and treating each other to build their relationship into one that is all that God intended.
Based on over three decades of counseling, and scientific and biblical research, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs shows couples how to have a happier and more fulfilling marriage. He helps couples see how they unintentionally yet oftentimes shut down their spouse’s spirit. Presented in a light yet effective way, wives will learn to keys for communicating so their husbands feel appreciated; husbands will learn how to love so their wives feel truly valued. Included are stories sharing how couples who were once without hope now enjoy fulfilling relationships. These are time tested solutions that will open hearts and pave the way to eliminating conflict, initiating change, and enjoying happiness for a lifetime together.
Love and Respect for a Lifetime is a great gift book, filled with timely truths and fantastic quotes. Here are just a few of my favorites…
She says, “I have nothing to wear.”
(She means, she has nothing new.)
He says, “I have nothing to wear.”
(He means, he has nothing clean.)
This just goes to show how you can say one thing, and your spouse hear something entirely different!
“A wife wants to be honored by her husband. Sometimes the more negative her words sound, the more she is seeking his positive love.”
“A man wants to be an umbrella over his wife to protect her. It is his responsibility, not his right.”
I don’t think I ever truly understood Hubs need to make sure I am protected until I heard it phrased like that. It isn’t that he just WANTS to protect me. He innately NEEDS to do so. By understanding that, it makes it easier for me to understand the things he does in effort to protect me.
I would certainly recommend Love and Respect for a Lifetimefor any couple that is engaged to be married and any couple that is in a marriage relationship. Even if you have a GOOD marriage, it can always be better. And understanding the language your spouse speaks goes a long way toward making it better!
Thanks to BookSneeze, who provided a complimentary copy of this book to facilitate my review. All opinions expressed are my own and are based on my own experience. Your experience may differ.